Personal Trainers Toronto: “I stole her diary!”

I did it.  I stole her diary.  She’s one of our clients and she doesn’t have a clue!

I’m posting a few pages here today.  Her fears, her desires, and her private, innermost feelings will be revealed here.  I couldn’t help myself.  What am I gonna do when she finds out?

From the diary of Anonymous, 12-01-12:

Dear Diary,

I’ve been feeling really good lately.  Some days it’s really a challenge with my new exercise program, but I’m starting to notice the results, so that’s good. 

Jeff totally killed me today.  I didn’t think I was gonna be able to finish the workout.  Somehow I managed.  He says my form is really good and I’m “isolating the muscle” better, whatever that means!

I know the workouts are good for me, but some days I swear I’d like to just smack that smug little smile off his face!  He’s a nice guy though, and seems to be a great trainer.

The nutrition part is really tough.  I don’t know how I’m supposed to manage six days without having sugar.  Jeff said I can have a cheat day and I thought, “really?  Just one?”  Some days it’s really hard, but I’ve been applying myself and I think I’m doing really well.

Sometimes, during out training session, he’ll tell me to do something and I’ll just think, “you’ve got to be kidding.”  But I don’t want to look like a wimp so I do it anyway.  I might be impressed with myself if I didn’t also wonder “what the heck have I gotten myself into?”  I mean, I must be crazy! 

Oh well, I guess if it makes me thin, it might be worth it.   Is it?  Could this really be the price of beauty?

Does everybody go through this I wonder?  Some mornings I’ll wake up in pain and think, “this is supposed to be good for me?”  One day my legs were so sore that I fell trying to get out of bed! I guess I’ll just take it one day at a time and see what happens. 

All the trainers at the gym are very encouraging and they seem to think I’m doing really great.  I bet they say that to everybody though.  Anyway, I’ll let you know how tomorrow goes…

13-01-12

Dear Diary,

Today was not a good day.  My boss dropped all these papers on my desk at the last minute.  I had to stay late to work through everything.  Not only did I miss my workout, but I had a date square with my coffee!  I feel gross now.  Maybe I wasn’t cut out for this.  It was easier before.  I felt fat, but at least I could still enjoy a couple of glasses of wine and a few squares of chocolate with my dinner!  And after all of my hard work and sacrifice, at my first weigh-in I lost 6 pounds.  What the f**k?!  I am feeling a lot better though.

Now Jeff is gonna ask me and I’ll have to tell him the truth that I cheated.  He’s probably gonna kill me with the workout.  I mean I literally might not survive, this could be the last time I write to you, diary. 

Seriously though, maybe I should make up an excuse to not go?  I could say I have too much work or I’m tired, or I’m not feeling well, or something.  At least that way I could sneak in a few more days of good eating, do some cardio, and report good news.   That might work.

Does everybody go through this? 

Oh well, I guess I won’t quit just yet.  I need my training sessions.  On my own I’d probably just give up.  I’m scared and a bit overwhelmed, but I started this and I’m going to see it through!  I won’t give that cocky bastard the satisfaction.  You’ll never break me, asshole!

End of Diary Sample

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This is the result of a thought experiment.  I’m having a little fun with it of course.  I’m not going for 100% accuracy.  But I asked myself, what would it feel like to walk a mile in the shoes of a new trainee?

I’m a huge fan of Dr. Steven Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.  The 5th habit is seek first to understand, then to be understood.

I work hard at understanding the people I train.  I strive to enter their minds and learn about their habitual thought processes.  What I’ve discovered through my many years of working with people is that I can’t respond to their problems by using my own filters.  They’re not me, and they don’t think like me

But if I can figure out how to think like they do, then I can speak to them in their own language.  I’m always working on this, but with the years I’m getting better at it, and it’s made me a more effective coach.

The question I’d like to leave you with is this: what relationships in your life, be they working relationships or personal relationships, could benefit from a little bit more empathic understanding on your part?  What would a page in your family member’s, your friend’s, or your coworker’s diary look like?

To Your Success,

Conor Kelly

Personal Trainer Toronto: “One of my favorite videos of all time”

It’s Friday and I’m fired up!  I’m leaving for my Birthday Ski Weekend today.

Since yesterday I’ve had the opportunity to contemplate on the significance of turning a year older.  It also gave me pause to look back.

I would say that most of the things I do on a daily basis would have seemed very far fetched to the me of ten years ago.  Although you probably wouldn’t guess it, I’m very introverted.  At one time I was extremely shy also.

One of the best things I think any person can do for themselves is learn to take more risks.

I know that the blessed life I enjoy today would not be possible had I not learned to take risks and expand my comfort zone.  I would never have quit my job at Extreme, I would never have met my amazing wife, I would never have become a public speaker.  These were all things that scared the s**t out of me at first!

Understand that everything you’ve ever wanted is right at the edge of your comfort zone.  Your comfort zone equals your life zone.  It equals your happiness zone.  The more you can expand your comfort zone the greater your quality of life will be.  I really believe that.

I understood instinctively that to overcome inhibition one must act uninhibited.

I’m always playing with this idea, it keeps me growing.  Yesterday at Starbucks I bought a complete stranger a cup of coffee, just like that.  He was speechless.  It was fun.

The day before that one of the members here smelled really bad.  The gym was filled with his pungent aroma.  As one of the trainers put it, “it was giving me a headache.”  I told him, “I don’t mean to be rude but you stink!”  While it’s true that he needed to be told, I spoke up mainly because it made me uncomfortable to do so. 

These daily forays to the edge of comfort have helped me tremendously. 

Do one thing every day that scares you.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

You’ll be amazed at the courage you develop.

A big step out of your comfort zone can be life-changing.  It was for Paul Potts, a former winner of Britain’s Got Talent.  The video of Paul’s audition for the show is one of the most watched YouTube videos of all time.  I show it occasionally in my seminars.  If you’ve already seen this, do yourself a favor and watch it again.

I’d like you to listen to him talk.  Notice the fear in his voice.  I mean the guy is a phone salesman!  Notice how the judges and the audience all thought he was going to be a joke.  And finally, recognize in yourself the same ability he used, and which we all possess, to step up when it really matters.

Click here to watch the video.

I tear up every time I watch this.  It’s a beautiful expression of the power of being human.  We can be more than we imagine.  We can touch greatness.

Risk something today.  You could ask out that person you’ve had your eye on, strike up a conversation with a stranger, or call someone you care about and tell them what they mean to you.  Don’t think about it, just do it.

“Leap, and grow your wings on the way down.”

Have a great Friday,

Conor Kelly

Toronto personal trainer: “How to do more with less”

Happy Groundhog Day.  It’s also my Birthday today.

On this day some years ago, my journey from small to large to medium began.

Guess who?

Thanks for joining me on the ride!

Whether your goal is to be large, medium or small, I know you can get there too.

In yesterday’s blog I described Pareto’s principle as it pertains to your fitness program.  Today I’ll share some thoughts on what I believe to be the most high-leverage strategies for getting fast results.

How do you accomplish more with less?  To a large extent it depends on lifestyle factors that are specific to the individual.  One person’s 20% may not equal another’s.

However, if the goal is fat loss, here are some things for you to consider.  

1. You can’t out-train a bad diet.  Nutrition is numero uno, el capitane when it comes to fat loss.  Look there first.  Put your energy there first.  Too many people are trying to outrun their lousy eating habits and it doesn’t work.

Within the sphere of supportive nutrition, here’s what I believe the 20% to be:

(1) do enough to make small improvements each week.  If you never eat breakfast and you ate breakfast once this week, you can say you ate better this week.  That’s all you need to do.  Keep doing that and never stop.  You’ll eventually have much more supportive eating habits.

(2) Find a pattern that works for you and stick to it.  I more or less eat the same stuff every day for 5-6 days a week.  It’s simple, I don’t have to think about it much, and it’s easy to follow.  The other 1-2 days are when I get some variety.  If you think it’s boring, find new ways of preparing your food.  Do scrambled instead of boiled, add a new spice to your chicken or salmon or rice, try a healthy lunch counter. 

Many grocery stores now have a warm lunch counter where you can literally pick a protein, a starch, and veggies for less than $10.  Remember, you’re busy; you want it to be as automatic as possible for you to eat well.

(3) Lean protein, starchy carb, fibrous carb every 3 to 3 and half hours.  In other words, eat 4-5 times a day (meal or snack), just be sure to include some protein each time.  Avoid processed or packaged.  Drink lots of water in between meals.

(4) Watch those evenings.  Don’t do the Sumo thing.  Eat less when you need it less.  As I’ve explained, this made a huge impact for me.

2. Follow a plan.  Without a plan you’re like a ship without a rudder; floating around pointlessly.  A complete plan includes BOTH nutrition and exercise.  Hire a personal trainer, shorten the learning curve. 

I’ve seen miracle transformations in people who did nothing else but add structure to what they were already doing.  We’re purpose-driven beings.  Do the thinking up front, then put it in cruise control.

“The battle is won or lost before it is ever fought.”  Sun Tzu, Art of War

If you suffer from the whole “I workout a couple of times one week but then I miss a whole week,” there is a cure.  It’s called a plan.

3. Always find new ways of challenging yourself.  Try to set a personal best of somekind in every workout.  Try new training methods.  Use a periodized training program.  Keep the intensity as high as possible relative to your current level of conditioning. 

In other words, you’ve got to give your body a reason to change. 

Doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result?  Insanity.  That’s what Einstein described.  Yet there are hundreds of people lining up in health clubs to do the same routines day in and day out.

What’s in the the 20% when it comes to exercise?  (1) Weight training, (2) Interval training, and (3) MRT, or cardio circuits using weights.

4. Work on you.  Your body can only change to the extent that you do.  The most productive thing you can do is work on your thoughts and feelings around this whole process.  Find things to like about yourself, and find ways to feel good in the process of getting fit.   

Learning to focus on the positive outcome you want and developing a healthier self-image are crucial to long term health.  To do this, nurture your mind daily.  Your mind needs supportive nutrition as much as your body does. 

Every day, read positive articles like this and listen to positive audios on success and personal development.  Venture out and try new things.  Most of all, practice being your own best friend.  Most of us with never put up with someone else speaking to us in the way we speak to ourselves!  Treat yourself as a caring and patient teacher would, and I promise you’ll find it much easier to take action on almost everything.

In my experience, working on yourself will have a even bigger impact on your results than your workout program. 

Attempt to view all decisions regarding your actions through the lens of the 80/20 rule.  Ask yourself, is what I’m doing really going to make a significant impact? 

It is said that the quality of the response is equal to the quality of the question.  Want better ideas or actions?  Ask better questions.

I’ll leave you with this: what’s one thing you can do today that will bring you closer to your goal?

Raya, Jeff, and myself are getting set to head up to Horseshoe Valley for a Birthday ski weekend.  Let’s hope there’s snow by the time we get there.

To Your Success,

Conor Kelly

Personal Trainers Toronto: “What can a 19th century Italian economist teach us about fitness?”

Are you familiar with the 80/20 rule?

Sometimes referred to as Pareto’s principle, it is credited to an Italian economist named Vilfredo Pareto.  At the beginning of the 20th century, Pareto observed that 80% of the land in Italy was owned by 20% of the population.

 

You can spot this pattern everywhere.  In economics, they say 80% of the population controls 20% of the wealth.  In business, 80% of your revenues come from 20% of your customers.  In medecine, we have the concept of minimum effective dose, that point beyond which more of a particular treatment produces only negligible results.

Is it always exactly 80/20?  No.  It could be 90/10, or 70/30 sometimes.  The point is, in almost every arena we notice that a few of the causes are responsible for most of the effects.

In other words, very few things matter.

In fitness, it could be said that as a rule, about 20% of your activities produce 80% of your results.  Therefore, if you are able to identify what those 20% are, and focus on them, you can generate faster fitness results with less effort!

Know that 20% of the nutritional changes you’ll make will produce 80% of the fat loss, and the last 20% of repetitions closest to fatigue will cause 80% of the results you get from your exercise program.

There are many things you can do for your fitness, some of them just happen to count more.

Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to uncover that 20%.  When you do, your power to transform will increase exponentially because you will be focusing on the three or four things that have the most impact, and you won’t be wasting your time on things that have little or no impact.

How are you going to identify that 20%?

There are general rules, however, for the most part I find it’s specific to the individual.  At Evolution Fitness, one of our main goals with every new trainee is to help them understand what aspects of their program they should focus on.  What’s gonna be the biggest bang-for-your-buck?  What is it that, beyond everything else, is going to get you the results.

It’s usually something specific to your lifestyle.

Even though I know you’re probably going to hate me for saying this, in my experience it’s usually the exact thing you don’t want to do, or are avoiding doing. 

Whatever we resist is often what keeps us stuck.

For me, it was my evenings.  That was the hardest thing.  I looked forward to eating when I got home, it was how I rewarded myself for getting through another day.  I was pretty much willing to change anything except for that.  But this was the one thing which, when it finally changed, made all the difference to my results.

As I sign off for today, I’d ask you to consider, what is your 20%?  Perhaps you already know.  Then consider, what if I was willing to change this?  Would it be so bad?

When you know that everything you want is on the other side of one simple choice, it’s not much of a choice anymore.

Remember, effort is required, but struggle is optional.

I’ll be back tomorrow with my 80/20 analysis, and hopefully I can save you a lot of time and frustration.

To Your Success,

Conor Kelly

Toronto Personal Trainer: “How to love eating well”

We recently had a client return to training with us after a hiatus of a couple of months.  She’d actually lost quite a bit of weight since we last saw her, so naturally I was intrigued.

“What have you been doing?  Have you been training?”

“No.  It’s the diet, it just finally clicked.”

“How so?”

“Well, you’ve been telling me for the longest time I should have a cheat day, and I guess being ‘unlimited’ in that way finally helped me to realize I could do this.”

Two comments: (1) if your goal is fat loss, nutrition always comes first.  Figure that the average person sleeps about 7 hours per night, that leaves 17 hours per day.  Even if you worked out for an hour every day, you’d still have 16 hours left.  In other words, fully 2/3 of your “fat-burning” day is influenced solely by your food choices.  You can positively impact your metabolism, or sabotage its proper function.

Next, (2) any plan based on deprivation is destined to fail.  Most of us are just not wired that way.  You need to have room in your plan to relax and enjoy life.  The best way to do this is by having a pre-designated day each week reserved for eating what you feel like eating.  I’ve lived my life like this for years.  Sunday is my cheat day. 

That being said, you need to have the right belief system to make this realistic for you.

Foods are not “good” or “bad”, they just have more or less nutritive value.

This breakthrough alone might be worth the price of admission kids.  Let’s face it, food is already a very emotionally charged issue for most people.  Do we really have to turn into a moral issue as well?

The shift that needs to occur for most people is that food is neither “good”, nor “bad”.  It either nourishes your body well, or it doesn’t.  This is a subtle difference, but one that I’ve noticed people who have a healthy relationship with food understand.

There’s no question that eating is a great source of pleasure!  Nature intended it that way.  I personally love getting together with friends and relatives and enjoying a lot of food and drink, and there’s nothing wrong with that.  But nature also intended it to be fuel.  Where the problem occurs is when the food becomes the main source of pleasure, or the main way we self-medicate.  A derivative of this problem is the myth that eating in a supportive manner means you can’t enjoy your food.

I’ll admit, these days, I eat very cleanly, most of the time.  I rarely overeat, and I almost always choose highly nutritious foods.  But I’ll tell you something else, I also really enjoy my food!  I most definitely do not feel deprived in any way, especially since following a healthy pattern affords me the option to let go of that pattern periodically and not pay a price for it!

Cheesecake, ice cream, pizza, burgers, and chocolate – I eat all that stuff!  I love it!  I just don’t eat it every day as my main source of nourishment because I’d feel awful most of the time. 

The problem is not eating whatever you want, it’s eating whatever you want, whenever you want.  That can add up to a bad combination.

When you learn to evaluate food based on “what is this doing to me?” as opposed to taste, it will instantly become easier to make better choices.  As for the taste issue, you’ll adjust.  Seriously.  One of the most common aspects of the programs we teach is that as a person learns to eat supportively, they begin to crave healthier choices, and their cravings for junk food gradually fade away.  It might just be a question of knowing how to prepare your best food options in a way that makes them more palatable.  Experiment, you’ll find out what you like.

Trust me, your body knows what’s up.  If you crave less supportive choices, you’ve trained it to crave these things.

I really do evaluate my food choices based on what’s good for me.  Will this allow me to feel good?  Will it support me in having the body and appearance I want to project?  Will I be energized or will I feel sluggish?  These are the types of questions that happen subconsciously.  But I had to train myself to be that way. 

At first, you may have to ask these questions consciously, almost every time when making a meal decision.  Does that sound like a lot of effort and discipline?  Only at first.  Before too long you’ll begin to reprogram your own thought process, and when that happens, you’re laughing.  Eating well becomes a part of you.

For each of these questions, the answer lies in the basic nutritive value of the food you are considering.  Choose low value, and you’ll end up feeling tired, sluggish, experience bloating and gas, as well as packing on the fat.  Choose high value, and it’ll produce a high value outcome for you.

If you had a high-performance sports car, would you use a low-grade fuel?  Not if you cared about the car.  Over time you’d muck up the incredibly well designed engine and ruin the car’s performance.  Here’s a news flash:  your body is that well designed, highly-sophisticated, high-performing machine.  You’re just not choosing to look at it that way.

Most people are fueling their bodies like a broken down Lada from the 70’s!  I used to!  Is it any surprise that a person would be unhappy with their health or their body at that point?

Your body is the one mode of transport you don’t get to choose.  You can choose what to fuel it with, however.  The right fuel will make for a better ride, I guarantee you that.  It was designed to serve you, but can only do so to the extent that you serve it first.

Learning to view your food choices as a source of fuel as opposed to mere pleasure is a shift, no doubt.  It’s one that can take time.  But it will pay huge dividends.

The end result is that you can begin to view food as a potential source of pleasure, AND fuel.  In so doing you are looking at the positive aspects of nourishing your body well, as opposed to the negative aspects of depriving yourself of pleasure.  In my experience, a positive focus on “what can I do for my body?” has a much better feel and stick-to-it-ness than “I’m not supposed to have that.”

Real contentment does not come from the fleeting satisfaction of a good meal.  It comes from challenging yourself, getting out of your comfort zone, and growing as a person.  One of your best opportunities for success with your nutrition plan is to look for new ways to enjoy yourself.  Take a dance class, join an affinity group of somekind, get out and meet new people, or discover a new hobby that you can be passionate about.

Finding ways to “fill the void” other than with food is probably one of the best things you can do for your nutrition plan.

And it’s ok to enjoy your favorite “cheat” foods too, just maybe not every day.  You’ll feel much better for it.

I like what Helen Keller said, “life is short, eat the dessert first.”

Get out there and enjoy life.  Enjoy food, and enjoy feeling great too!

To Your Success,

Conor Kelly

Personal Trainers Toronto: “How to reduce those problem areas”

I just got back from a nice long walk, and after eating a healthy lunch consisting of grilled chicken breast, wild rice, and broccolli, I’m recharged and ready to deliver today’s content.

If you’ve ever wondered how to get that stubborn fat off your belly, hips or upper body, you’ll want to check this out.

First, there’s a couple of concepts you should understand.  (1) Your body loses fat in genetically pre-determined patterns.  It’s the “first on, last off” rule, which basically states that the area in which you are most likely to put on fat will also be the last place you lose it from.  So if your hips are the first place you gain weight, they will also be the last place you lose weight.  Sucks, doesn’t it?

The general rule is that to get the fat off a particular area, you need to reduce your overall bodyfat percentage.  You’ll go through a process whereby everything else gets leaner first, until you ultimately lose fat from your trouble spot.  It just takes time.

(2) You can’t spot reduce an area by directly working that area.  In other words, you can’t make your belly smaller by targeting the abs.  That’s why the almost endless number of so called belly-reducing gizmos and devices you see on infomercials are such crap.  Don’t waste your money.

Once we’ve acknowledged the larger principles in (1) and (2), we can know look at what you can do to help the process along.  More specifically, we can chart a course of action based on your body type, or the general pattern of fat-distribution.

A small caveat: much of what I’m about to share is very scientifically based, yet some of it is purely my experience.  I’ve worked with so many different bodies over the years that I’ve just learned to recognize certain norms in terms of what each so called “body type” responds to. 

1. Heavy around the mid-section (belly fat).  People with stubborn belly fat generally do not respond well to doing lots of cardio.  I’ve met many runners, for example, that never lose the fat around their mid-section until they stop running.  My theory on it is that fat is a very important nutrient to a cardio-based exerciser, which means your body always likes to keep some in reserve.

The other factor in belly fat is cortisol.  Cortisol is your body’s stress hormone.  High levels of emotional stress, lack of sleep, and poor diet are all factors to consider where it concerns excessive cortisol levels in the body.

Sleep is a huge thing for belly fat.  Look there first.  Next, gear your training to eliciting a better lactic acid response.  That means you’re shooting for more of a localized muscle burn than an all out cardio assault.  Getting that burn creates a significant growth hormone response, which is helpful in combatting cortisol.

High repetitions with controlled movements as well as lower repetitions with a slower motion work well.  Interval training is preferable to long and steady paced cardio in this case.

2. Heavy on the hips.  Brace yourself for this.  A recent study proved that during extended periods of cardio a woman’s body can effectively shift it’s fat stores from the lower body to the upper body instead of burning them off!

Spending a lot of time on the treadmill or the elliptical is counter-productive to this particular type.  You’ll benefit more from doing intervals, or depletion type, high rep circuit training with weights.

3. Heavy upper body.  Some people have relatively lean legs but carry more fat in their upper body such as the arms, chest, and the midsection.  It’s a similar type to #1, but #1′s fat is usually much more localized in the belly.

This type can benefit from the same type of training as #1, except that there would be additional benefit to really focusing on the legs.  They’ll either have thin and weaker legs which will respond to the additional strength requirements of a heavy training regimen, or they’ll have strong, toned legs capable of a significant workload which we can then leverage to create a positive hormonal response in the body.

Either way, focusing on the lower body in this case seems to be the ticket to leaning out that upper body.  Go figure.

4. Very even fat-distribution.  This body type is both a blessing and a curse.  You’ll generally have better potential to get lean, but you’ll be losing from all areas so evenly that your progress will seem very slow at first.

A lot of weight training and some MRT style cardio circuits will get the job done for these guys and gals.

Here’s a great little interval training program I used during my summer 6-pack program, which will be effective for all four types, but even more so to #’ s (1) and (2):

  • Warm up 5-10 minutes
  • 5-minutes of 30 seconds fast and 30 seconds slow on a stationary bike (9 out of 10 effort on the “fast”, and 3 out of 10 on the “slow”)
  • 5-minutes total rest
  • 20-30 at 70% max heart rate (220 – your age)
  • 5-minutes of intervals on the bike as above
  • 2-3 minutes cool down

To be performed twice per week either first thing in the morning on an empty stomach, after resistance training, or allowing at least three hours after your most recent meal.  The former two would be my preferred choices.

If you have any questions, please include them in the comments.  I’d be happy to discuss this topic more.

Enjoy your Sunday,

Conor Kelly

Best Toronto Trainers: “A very underrated and underused technique”

“Imagination is more important than knowledge.” – Albert Einstein

When I was 16 I weighed 120 pounds.

What’s worse, I was pretty much afraid of everything.  I hated myself for that.  “Why can’t I be more confident?”

Try this mind technique!

I was high school swimmer, a decent one too.  For a small guy I was pretty explosive.  I could do a 50m freestyle in 27 seconds flat, and the 100m freestyle in just under 58 seconds.  At the high school level, I was pretty competitive, and won a lot of races.

At one point, my coach suggested I start working out with weights to get bigger and increase my strength.  He gave me a basic program and I went to work.  I still remember my first time ever doing weights, I could barely move the next day.  But I also remember it felt good, in a strange way.

Before too long, I was really into my weight training sessions.  So much so, in fact, that I eventually decided to drop the swimming and focus on doing weights instead.

I quickly became obsessed.  I wanted to get big.  I wanted to be strong because I thought it would help me overcome my insecurities.  I hated my weakness, and wanted to eradicate it.

I spent most of my free time either training, or reading and researching all about the science of working out, and nutrition.  But in my first six months I experienced very mediocre results.  I gained about ten pounds, and I’m not even sure if all of it was muscle!

It was then that I answered an add in a muscle magazine for a free report on building muscle.  The free report contained an excellent sales letter which hit all the right high-notes, and I was hooked.  I signed up for personal training by correspondance with my first ever fitness mentor, Mr. Leo Costa.

Leo Costa was an amateur bodybuilder and personal trainer who based his training methodology on top secret, “behind-the-iron-curtain” technologies revealed to him by Bulgarian scientists.

When I say he trained me by correspondance, I mean that literally.  Back then there was no Skype, no email, no Facebook.  Can you imagine?  He sent me a questionnaire — in the mail — regarding my goals and current measurements.  I then sent it back to him, and had to wait another three weeks for his next letter which described my program and meal plan!

It’s pretty amusing as I think back, and marvel at how the world has changed.  But every month I’d send my training and nutrition log, along with my updated measurements, so he could tell me what to tweak in my program

What I learned from Leo changed my life.  Some of the principles he taught me remain a big part of our training protocols today.  I followed his advice religiously, and it worked.  I got big and strong (a little too big actually, if you recall the second half of this story).

I didn’t realize until later that while his coaching was effective, I provided the major elements of success with my motivation, dedication, and desire.  I also supplied another key ingredient.  It’s a technique used by the world’s most successful athletes, sales people, and scientists.

It’s called visualization.

Many of us have not learned to harness the power of visualization, but it can completely reshape your experience.  It’s a form of mental rehearsal, during which you replay images in your mind of scenarios you’d like to enjoy.

An athlete might use visualization to see themselves turning in the perfect performance.

In fact, research has indicated that visualization can be just as helpful to athletic performance as real physical practice.

Research Quarterly once reported an experiment about the effects of visualization on the skill of shooting basketball free throws.

One group of students practiced throwing the ball for 20 days and were scored on the first and last day.  The second group did no practice of any kind.  A third group was instructed not to do any physical practice, but to spend 20 minutes a day picturing themselves successfully throwing free throws.

The first group, which practiced every day, improved scoring by 24 percent.  The second group that did nothing, showed no improvement.  And the third group, that used visualization only, improved scoring by 23 percent!

Anthony Robbins used visualization techniques with Andre Agassi when he made his big pro tennis comeback.

When I first started bodybuilding, I used quite a bit of visualization.  I just didn’t realize what I was doing at the time. 

I used to sit on the bus going to and returning from school every day, stare out the window, and just allow myself to daydream about what it would be like to have the muscles I wanted.  I’d imagine how I’d look in a t-shirt, I’d imagine what it would feel like to be able to wear shorts and not feel self-conscious about my skinny legs, and I’d see myself flexing my muscles in the mirror, all the while fully enjoying the experience as though I were already there.

When I turned to strength training, my daydreams were all about lifting heavy weights and objects easily, seeing myself dominating competitions, and feeling powerful.

When I was losing weight, I’d go for a run and picture myself with ripped abs, feeling fit, and admiring my new body.

In every successful transformation attempt, I thought about the thing I wanted a lot, in fact, almost constantly.

Napoleon Hill, in his “Laws of Success In 16 Lessons” called it having a “magnificent obsession” for what you want.  The key is, as I thought of what I wanted, I focused on and allowed myself to imagine what it would feel like to have it.  I felt the feelings as though I already had it.  I was never focused on the lack of what I wanted, or how far away I was from actually achieving it. 

I never allowed myself to think, “I’ll never get there.”

What thoughts do you entertain yourself with?  Great question to ask.  Are you daydreaming or visualizing feeling sorry for yourself, or all the things you hate about your body?

“I firmly believe it’s not the weights in your hands that make your body change, it’s your mind that does.” – Tom Platz, Pro Bodybuilder

Take 10 minutes per day to relax your entire body, close your eyes, and ask yourself, “how will it feel to live in my ideal body?”  What will you look like?  Picture it.  What will it feel like?  Imagine it.  How will people react to the way you look?  Envision it.  I believe 10 minutes of this type of training is worth an hour in the gym. 

“Conceive, believe, achieve.”  Bill Kazmaier, World’s Strongest Man

I’ve learned from experience that visualization is one of the most powerful tools we can use to change our bodies, or any aspect of our lives we wish to change.  Einstein did say that imagination is more important than knowledge.  In other words, it is more important for you to be able to see yourself achieving what you want than to actually know how to do it!

“Great living starts with a picture, held in your imagination, of what you would like to do or be.” – Dr. Harry Emerson Fosdick

I truly hope that you’re picturing a great life for yourself, because I have no doubt that you deserve nothing less.

To Your Success,

Conor Kelly

 

Personal Trainer Toronto: “Three ways to make exercise (even more) fun”

One of my mentors told me that when you say you want to be successful, what you’re really saying is you’re not successful right now.

That’s why you should always want to be “even more” succesful, or to do an “even better” job of something.

With that in mind, here are three ways to make exercise “even more” fun:

1. Learn to do it correctly: knowing what to do can be very empowering.  Most of our success stories will tell you they developed a passion for working out when they finally discovered how to put the pieces together.  I’ve seen the most unmotivated exercisers become excited about their routines, simply because we added structure to what they were doing.

When you’ve got a plan, you’ve got a purpose.  We are goal striving beings.  Lack of purpose equals boredom.

Also, when you know how to properly target and isolate your various muscle groups, exercise takes on a whole new feel.  You develop a sense of creative control over your body that generally makes things fun.  It feels good to feel it where supposed to feel it.

2. Compete against yourself: strive to set a personal best of some kind in every single workout.  Run five minutes longer, or run the same distance in less time, do more weight or more repetitions, or add new sets and exercises within the same timeframe.

It’s fun to progress.  There’s a great sense of achievement that comes with hitting a personal best.  People always love the strength phase in our training protocol for that reason.

3. Mix it up: Try new things.  Join a walking group, check out a boot camp class, do pilates, swimming.  Find out what you like.  We generally change the program every 2-4 weeks.  One big reason for that is preventing your body from adapting to what you’re doing.  But it also keeps things interesting.  Variety is definitely the spice of your workout routine.

There are lots of ways to make exercise even more fun.  But probably the most significant one is to show up often enough, and for long enough to enjoy the results.  Make your workouts your “me” time, your sanctuary, an opportunity to focus on yourself, to clear your head and recharge.  Do that, and very quickly you’ll actually miss it if you don’t go.

To Your Success,

Conor Kelly

Personal Trainers Toronto: “5 quick, easy, and high-impact fat loss strategies”

The video I shared on Monday posed the question, “what’s the #1 thing you can do for your health”?

Well, what is the biggest “bang for your buck” when it comes to fat loss?  What will produce the highest ROI (Return On Investment)?

Here are five quick and simple to implement tactics that are sure to have a big impact on your results:

1. No carbs after 6pm: One of the biggest reasons people gain weight is poor caloric distribution.  They don’t eat much during the day, and consume most of their calories in the evening, at dinner (often the largest meal of the day), and after dinner (the whole late night oral fixation thing).

In my seminars I refer to this as the Sumo Wrestler’s diet (seriously, it’s how Sumo’s gain weight)!

Bottom line, your metabolism slows in the evening and you’re about ten times more likely to store the calories you take in late.  Especially when those calories come from starches like rice, potatoes, pastas, or breads.  Keep it to protein and veg after 6pm and you’ll almost immediately notice a huge improvement.

2. Go to bed 30 minutes earlier.  They don’t call it “beauty rest” for nothing; sleeping burns fat.  Get your HGH fix.  Even an extra thirty minutes a day can help.  Turn off the tv 30 minutes earlier and tune in to your body’s most potent fat-blasting hormones.

3. Do a 10-15 minute MRT workout in the AM.  Get the day started on the right foot.  Before you jump in the shower, do about 10-15 minutes of bodyweight circuits.  This can be as simple as doing 10 pushups, 20 squats and 50 jumping jacks (or crunches, if you can’t do any jumping), repeated continuously for 10 minutes.

Ten minutes of this type of workout is enough to blast your metabolism into overdrive!  AND the effects can last all day…

4. Get protein with each meal and snack.  Proteins are the building blocks of muscle.  Feeding the muscle keeps your fat-burning furnace stoked. 

Protein also challenges your body to work harder in the act of digestion.  In this way you give yourself an “internal” workout and burn calories more effectively.

Finally, protein generally lowers the glycemic index of the meal.  This keeps your body in the fat-burning zone!

5. Go for your 30-minute “constitutional”: Go for a 30-minute walk outside at lunch time.  This is one of the best ways I know to clear your head and stay mentally “fresh” the entire day.  It makes you more productive. 

Also, walking releases a lot of “happy” hormones which help with releasing fat.

Try one or two, or even all five, and start enjoying faster returns today!

To Your Success,

Conor Kelly

Personal trainers Toronto: “The missing key to many weight loss programs”

I had a funny conversation with Jeff this week.

“What’s insomnia?” he asked.

“What do you mean?”

“I get that it’s when you can’t fall asleep, but how does that work?”

“What do you mean how does it work???”

“Like, you can’t fall asleep even if you tell yourself to fall asleep and you close your eyes?”

“Yeah, in fact, the more you tell yourself to fall asleep, the less it happens.”

Jeff’s obviously never had a problem with insomnia.  It’s such a foreign concept to him that it’s hard for him to grasp.  Heck, he can fall asleep in the staff room at work, during the day, and with other trainers coming in and out.

When he finally understood that insomnia really means you can’t sleep no matter what you try, he simply exclaimed: “That sucks!”

No s**t, Sherlock.

I, on the other hand, have had a history of sleep problems.  Once, I didn’t sleep for six months straight.

In my seminars I talk about my challenges with sleep apnea, and how it ruined my quality of life.  At certain points I lived with the double whammy of having both insomnia and sleep apnea, which meant I couldn’t fall asleep, and if I did by some miracle manage to drift off, I couldn’t stay asleep. 

I went through several sleep studies during which I didn’t actually sleep, so I’m not sure what they were studying.  You spend the night in a clinic with electrodes hooked to every part of your face and your body, not exactly ideal conditions for someone who already has a hard time sleeping.  That’s how I discovered I had sleep apnea.

Next, they gave me some pills to help me sleep, and boy did they work!  I was pretty much comatose most nights.  Trouble was, I couldn’t wake up.  I’d drag myself out of bed to have breakfast, only to fall asleep again in my chair!

I think there was an entire semester of school when I didn’t make it to a single 9AM class.

I’ve always had a hard time shutting my brain down for sleep.  My thoughts would be on overdrive.  My weight problem definitely exacerbated the symptoms I experienced from my sleep apnea.

Nowadays I do pretty well, and I do it without medication.  It still takes me quite a bit of time to fall asleep on occasion, but I generally do ok.

Many of the people we train complain of poor sleeping patterns.

It’s always paramount for me to adress these things because good sleep is so essential to your success with your fitness program.  In fact, I believe it’s the missing link for many people who attempt to lose weight.  Yet it’s seldom discussed in connection with weight loss.

Not only does lack of sleep or lack of quality sleep just generally make people miserable, but it’s a HUGE obstacle to losing fat.

For starters, it disrupts hunger regulating hormones, which means that (1) you are likely to eat more, and (2) you are likely to crave more carbs because your body is looking for a serotonin boost.

Secondly, higher cortisol levels (cortisol is the stress hormone) are a direct result of poor or insufficient sleep.  The presence of cortisol means the wasting of precious lean tissue that burns calories, AND increased fat storage.  Yuck.

Finally, your body produces growth hormone during sleep so it can repair itself.  But this only occurs in the deeper stages of sleep. 

This affects many aspects of retaining youth, and is needed to repair muscle damage as a result of your workouts.

Whatever your goals, most of the processes that are necessary to a successful body transformation occur during deeply restful sleep.  The results you receive from your training program will only be as good as your ability to recover.

Now to the point: if we’re not happy with our current sleeping patterns, what can we do about it?  Here are a few things that have worked for, and continue to work for me.

1. I recommend 7-8 hours of sleep per night.  Some people sleep just fine, but they don’t sleep enough.  There’s no way around it, you need to make sleep a priority if you want to enjoy the benefits.  This could mean disciplining yourself to turn off the computer or the tv a bit earlier and just going to bed.

2. Create the right conditions for sleep.  The best conditions are dark, quiet, comfortable, and a cool temperature in the room.  Whatever it takes to get that done, whether it means getting ear plugs, a new mattress and pillows, or everything in between, make it happen.

3. Avoid excessive stimulation before bed.  Turn down the lights, and stop looking at a computer screen or tv screen about an hour before bed.  Stimulating the eyes is what keeps you awake.  Read a book, unless the plot is something that overly excites you!  The goal here is relaxation.

4. Turn the clock around.  I always find it helps to turn my alarm clock away from me so I can’t see the time.  Knowing the time can be distracting and prevent you from falling asleep. 

5. Get outdoors and exercise.  Sun and fresh air does wonders.  A hard workout can also fatigue you enough that you’ll sleep more deeply.

6. Keep a regular schedule.  This has always been one of the most important ones to me.  Try to get up and go to bed around the same time.  Set your biological clock and sleep becomes more automatic. 

If you happen to go to bed late or have a hard time falling asleep, get up at your regularly appointed time anyway, and try not to nap during the day.  Otherwise you might fall into the same pattern the next night.

7. A few supplements that can help.  I take 300-500mg of magnesium every night before bed.  It’s a natural muscle relaxant.  Note also that many magnesium formulas include calcium.  Calcium improves the contractile ability of muscle and may cause excitability.  Better to get the magnesium on its own.

Over the years I’ve had success in using glutamine powder (10g), valerian root and other herbal sleep formulas, sleep enhancing herbal teas, and melatonin (2-3mg).  The latter should be used for not more than 2 to 3 weeks at a time, and preferably not every night as you can develop a dependancy.

8. Cut down on caffeine.  Having a cup of coffee as early as 3 or 4PM can impact your ability to sleep that night, even if you’re no longer feeling the so-called buzz.  I just have one cup of coffee in the morning and prefer to avoid it the rest of the day and drink water.  It’s helped my sleeping patterns immensely.  Don’t underestimate this one.

9. Don’t drink alcohol.  Even though you might feel sleepy, alcohol prevents you from reaching the deeper stages of sleep, so skip the glass of wine before bed. 

I put this theory to the test last week by having 10 shots of vodka at a friends birthday party and I slept fantastic.  : )

I generally wouldn’t recommend that route however.  I always feel slightly less rested the morning after having a few drinks.

10.  Go to bed with a deliberate intention of sleeping.  As you lie down, tell yourself with conviction: “I will sleep deeply and peacefully tonight and awake rested and prepared for the day ahead tomorrow.”  Then take a few minutes to notice what you like about where you are; how good your bed feels, how warm it is under the covers, and how soft your pillow is.

Be open to this working, and say it like you mean it, because more often than not, it does work.  Simply give the command. 

When you get better at this you can be like Jeff and simply think to yourself  “sleep”, and pass out anywhere.  Keep working on it.  Baby steps…baby steps.

I urge you to give this post a lot of consideration.  Even if you implement 2-3 of my suggestions it could dramatically enhance your quality of life, as well as your body’s ability to burn fat!

Better sleep, better body.

To Your Success,

Conor Kelly